It feels weird asking this question cause i am a guy and guys arent suppose to feel this way. I was talking to my girlfriend and my heart started hurting cause i miss her so bad.
I started getting frustrated and feeling kinda angry cause I couldnt hold her. I felt like crying and it has only been a week since ive seen her. I really love her so much, she means the world to me and Im 20 years old and Im acting like a little kid. Im so crazy for her, but why am I feeling this way its frustrating. I just really want her to be here with me and I'm having trouble sleeping and cant stop thinking bout her.
I know what you mean. My girlfriend lives miles away, so we only see each other once or twice a month. I don't think I've ever felt like crying, but it definitely hurts sometimes. I think it's normal for couples who don't get to see each other very often. Most guys just won't admit it. Ahhh, young love. Being too attached is also something we need to remember. It is this type of feeling that ends relationships too. You can try focusing on things other than her for a while, every day, give her an hour, but think of things all day long otherwise.
It might be nice to think you can't live without her, until you actually can't. Not a good scenario. I felt like crying and it has only been a Texting lets you control the tone and establish what kind of conversation you want to have. This is probably the most important part.Remember Me? Buzz Articles Advanced Search. Results 1 to 4 of 4. Thread: Love my gf so much, I dont know what these feelings are.
Love my gf so much, I dont know what these feelings are Hi everyone, I just need some help on finding myself. I am only I have been working full time for almost two years to help my single mom pay the rent.
I pay the same bills any common "adult" pays, I have gone through my father cheating on my mom, leaving our family, then passing away on not so good of terms. I have grown up faster then I would have liked, I miss being an innocent kid trying to save my allowance to get a new set of skateboard wheels.
I am happy with my present life too though I am a network administrator at a fairly large company, and I am progressing there very good. I have been trying to be active, and keep myself in shape My friend brought her and her friend to dinner with our group of friends.
I was w struck. So beautiful, SO incredibly smart, same interests as me, funny as heck. We just clicked and became in my opinion best friends right away. We soon started dating. I would honestly do anything for this girl There is no question in my mind whether I love her, or my depth of love for her. And I know she loves me so much it hurts too. Lately though, I have been feeling very, well here is where I am confused.
I am usually very good at analyzing myself, to fix problems, but this time I have had no luck. I feel desperate, constantly anxious, occasionally frustrated, insecure a bit, kind of out of touch with the real world cuz of thinking about life, etc.
I am not unhappy though I tried talking to her about this a week ago in the most unthreatening way possible, but it sort-of scared her.
I made sure she knew I didn't have ANY thoughts about even considering leaving, or taking a break form her. I just don't want to scare her. Is this maybe just the feelings of when I am going deeper into love with her? Its not like I am very depressed etc. I just hate feeling anxious about something that's not apparent to me. Maybe we are spending TOO much time together? I don't feel we are, but we have tried to cut it down during the week a bit I swear I just cant help it.
I cant stay away! I miss her every minute I am at work, and its SO hard coming to grips and making myself leave from her house so I can get some sleep before waking up for work. Maybe its because the relationship is progressing past that certain point, and since I am so young I'm just feeling kinda nervous?
I have seriously thought that if things keep going the way they do She is my best friend, as well as the person I want to be with forever.Hi, I am a student who goes to Texas A and M University and I met the most amazing woman of my dreams about 7 months ago.
She is everything that I could want in a wife, but she has a past that I have been struggling with ever since we started dating when she told me everything. I know I was meant to love this woman, but I am tired of her past still bothering me. It is not fair to my girlfriend or myself for her past always bothering me. Also, she was sexually molested by her grandfather constantly from 4 to 6 years of age.
Once she became a teenager, she was in 3 different relationships with guys who she gave oral sex to many times because she wanted to feel loved. She never felt truly loved as a child and I know that some of these later actions may have been caused by her difficult childhood without a father. Finally, she got into a fourth relationship with a guy who was not a very good guy at all. My girlfriend later found out that he had had sex with 32 previous women.
Anyways, she gave him oral sex as well, but he kept asking her to have sexual intercourse, so she finally gave in and lost her virginity to him. Once they began having sex, she took plan B on two different occasions because their condom had broken. Consequently, she got on a birth control pill. She finally broke up with him, and I finally met her through church. She never felt loved, but always felt used in these relationships.
I know all she wanted was to be loved, so that is why she did all these sexual things with these men. She has told me over and over how sorry she is for what she has done, and we both feel like we will become married one day.
I truly do love this woman with all of my heart and soul! It just kills me and hurts my heart knowing that several other men have USED my future wife for their sexual pleasure in a way that I cannot stop visualizing in my head. Her future husband should be the only man who shares such intimate sexual experiences with her, no one else. I feel that one of the reasons I have such a tough time with her sexual past is the fact that I do not have a sexual past at all.
My girlfriend is the only woman that I have loved. She will be all of my first and last sexual experiences, but I will not be any of her first sexual experiences. My questions are, 1.I am head over heels for my girlfriend. We've been together over a year and a half. For example, when I get my one night off from work during the week, all i want to do is hang out with her I don't think you can love and adore someone too much!
Unless of course, you cross the line and go into stalking and etc. Explain that it hurts your feelings and doesn't make you feel the way you try to make her feel. Communication is key!
Trouble with letting go of my girlfriend’s sexual past
If you don't tell her how you feel then she wont know! Good Luck! What it seems like is you love her more then she loves you. Your willing to put all your free time into the relationship and she isn't ready for that. She still wants to have more fun and be free. She doesn't want to be tied down to a serious relationship.
You need to talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you feel and tell her how much it hurts you when you only got one day off of work and she plans something else. Tell her you love her so much and you want to be with her on your free days.
Ask her how she feels. Ask her do you think I am too serious for this relationship. What do you want? She should give you some answers. If she isn't really willing to answer these questions maybe she isn't worth your time and you should find someone else who actually wants to put in the same effort that you put into the relationship. God Bless You! Being in love is a good thing. You two have been dating awhile and it is quite easy to take the other person in a relationship for granite.
I believe she loves you as well being that you two have been together so long. Some people just need a little space every now and then.Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. At first this relationship was all good and we were happy and we had each other and we both had friends and made plans but as time went on me and her became closer and closer inlove and started to spend most days together finally ending up seeing each other everyday almost.
And now we've been fighting alot, but we love each other heaps. The problem i have is that im getting really depressed over everything she does because as of a couple of months shes been showing me love in a mean hurting full way Verbaly And she demands that i only hang out with here and Ive lost all my friends now and she has to because we hung out so much and im starting to not feel anywhere near happy with how things are going with us.
And its affecting my school and work being sad all the time. Can anyone help me?? I love her so much. Geoff has solid advice above. It is still an uncomfortable place to be when a relationship goes one sided. Of course this is not always the case but you can work towards it by having that chat.
Be prepared and even write down a few points that you want to cover. Your girlfriend will also see that you concerns are serious. I hope she can meet you have way so you can both have mutual respect for eachother. Welcome to the forums and thanks for reaching out to us! Hope that you like it here and feel free to browse around with the 'young people' section to see maybe some other people who have been in your situation.
It sounds like you're in a bit of a tricky spot.
I can see that you love your girlfriend, but it doesn't sound like she's treating you the way you deserve to be treated. I want to call you out on something. You said in your post "she's showing me love in a mean hurting full way Verbaly ". Truth is, demanding that you only hang out with her and being verbal towards you is not love.
Sometimes in relationships couples will argue and that's normal and even healthy, but what's not healthy is verbal abuse and controlling who you hang out with.
You don't deserve to be treated that way. Have you talked to her about how all this stuff is making you feel? Is there something going on with her maybe at home or with her family that's causing her to react this way? It might even be useful to see the school counsellor and they could give you guys some advice or even just be there to listen to. I am sorry to hear that your girlfriend is treating you like this. If she loves you, she should trust you to be able to hang out with your friends.
I have been with my partner now for a year and a half, and like you and yours, we see each other almost every day. However we made a firm agreement when we first got together that we would let each other still see our friends if we wanted to, because maintaining healthy friendships outside of your relationship is something I think is really important and contributes a lot in regards to one's mental health.
I cannot stress enough how important communication is. You need to tell your girlfriend how you're feeling! It is not fair of her to restrict you from seeing anyone besides her, and it isn't a measure of love, rather I would say that she is fearful of you cheating or something like that.
As the others have said, nothing will change unless you talk to her about it. After all, we can't read minds, and she may not even be aware how she's making you feel. Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. You are currently: Home Get support Online forums.I'm a cognitive-behavioral therapist, here to support you in learning skills to cope with depression, anxiety, and painful emotions through a collaborative approach.
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Top Rated Answers Anonymous April 9th, am. You need to sit back and take some time to realize that you are amazing human being who doesn't deserve anyone who won't doesnt think the world of you, your heart hurts because you think about the "what if I stayed with them", ect, but thinking about these things only distract you from finding your true soulmate and finding the person that truly makes you happy, so just go with the flow and let life do its work, everything happens for a reason and a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor :.
Did you find this post helpful? There is something you can do to make it stop. The only time that does exist is right now.
You need to enjoy it and experience it. Anonymous April 8th, pm. You might not be able to stop thinking about someone you love, only time can create distance enough to leave someone behind.
But you can embrace your thoughts and feelings, tell yourself its okay to think about them, even though it hurts, and that it will be okay, one step and one day at the time.
Well, it certainly is not that easy, speaking from personal experience. But it is true that Time is the best healer of all. You just need to give yourself some time. Bad things happen, that's life for you- but we can't let those bad things pull us down. We must live through it with patience and determination. And when that's taken from you, you want to reach out and can't help but want it back. But that's okay. That's because you're human. Time will eventually soothe the heartache. But there will still be time when you're doing the dishes or staring out the window when you'll suddenly remember that day, that particular memory and you'll feel a pang in your heart, a bit of regret mixed up with sadness and void.
But you'll be okay. You'll just need to be patient and hold on- till time works its magic and heal ya. To be honest There's a sentence that goes by '' time heals everything'' and as cliche as it sounds, it is actually true. It takes two to tango, and it wont be a long time before you will acknowledge the fact that you can dance with someone else too. A heartache is just temporary. Keep your self busy till then. Have some self value and will-power. You're heart hurts so much because of the constant abuse you put it through by dreading on something that you can't control.
Anonymous May 4th, pm. When we're no longer able to be with someone we love, it can hurt deeply. Often we replay over and over what we did or didn't do, or what we could have done differently to have a better relationship. When we realize that the journey of life offers us opportunities to learn and grow, and then see these experiences and relationships steps on that journey, we start to understand that none of us is perfect. We may look back and see how we could have done things better or differently, but we did the best we could in the moment with what we knew and felt at that time.
If we can learn from the experience and use it for our own growth, we will be in a much better position in the future to accept where the relationship takes us. Maybe the idea is not to try to stop thinking about him or her, but to be happy for the time you had together and for all the lessons you learned that are making you an even better person.
Your insight and self knowledge is the legacy that person has left you.Yes, I missed my girlfriend now my wife many times so much that there was a physical ache in my body. A sweet pain is the best way I can describe it. On a more scientific note, emotions often manifest themselves physically. I thought I was pregnant for a while because I was nauseous at the same time every day for three weeks, but I was just stressed.
Like Facade mentioned, sometimes our emotions manifest themselves physically. Our attachment to someone we love is so great that their prolonged absence feels like deprivation of things as essential as oxygen or water. I think of it as an acquired or conditioned need. Some speak of it in terms of addiction. We associate our sense of well-being with the presence of our loved one.
Thus we feel unwell or hurting when we miss them. Certainly understand you comment jjmah. People do feel physical pain when in emotional pain. When I was very depressed and anxious about breaking up with an exboyfriend I felt like I had lost a limb.
I guess when someone is like a part of you and they are not there it not only affects us emotionally, but also physically feels like they are missing. I would bet there is actually evidence of a physiological reason if we did brain scans; must have something to do with how the parts of the brain are connected, probably some people feel this more than others.
Both my boys are going to camp for the week and yepper, I will miss them baaad! I believe you are talking about the incredible feeling one gets when they see someone who fills a mutual need or completion in them so wonderfully. My 9 year old grand daughter and I can not wait to get to the barn to be greeted by her cute, ornery, adorable pony. Both of my kids and grandkids do this to me as well.
They are a blessing to be enjoyed. Oxytocin Withdrawl; also known as the cuddle chemical. Our house. It sucks, it hurts, it hurts because it sucks. It might be unorthodox. ChazMaz totally agreed…someone pulled the wrong trigger on that comment! Its a stress thing when your body is under stress it can go through physical pain. It happens with other emotions too not just missing someone. Anger and hate can cause you to physically hurt and even become sick.
Stress is a major cause of many of the pains we go through. This question is in the General Section. Responses must be helpful and on-topic. To join, you must be at least 13 years old and agree to the terms and conditions. General Question. You miss someone so much that it physically hurts - why? Add Topic 7, questions people. Add Topic 3, questions people.